Walt Disney was a failure and needed psychological counseling more than once. Thomas Edison failed more times than he succeeded….as did Harlan Sanders (Kentucky Fried Chicken fame). They have been told “no” “we don’t want it”, “go away”, “your’e nuts”, “you are too expensive”, “it won’t work”…..and the list of rejection statements go on and on!
Let’s fact it…..rejection hurts! Whether you are rejected by a client, friend, boyfriend, or girlfriend….it simply hurts.
As you know with my background in psychology I always tell my audiences and my students that the “brain is constantly avoiding pain and always seeking pleasure.” This is an ongoing process in our conscious state….almost as if we are on a see-saw…a balancing act of life.
Well, it takes awhile to “bounce back” and get back into a realm of feeling “safe.” Literally, like I said this becomes a balancing act. But you can bring back “up” the positive feelings and associations, when you have won,…when it did go your way. But YOU have to focus on that.
The power of your mind is capable of bringing you back into a high level of positive concentration. If we succumbed to all of the rejections we face in our life, we would all be walking around with our head hanging low! Think of all of the athletes that experience win or loss every game that they engage in. They unfortunately have a 50% change of failure….which is pretty high! But they leave the field, the court or the stadium with an attitude of yes we won,…. or “damn it” loss again.
So what are your next steps when actions have gone wrong? Well, write down your angst regarding this loss or rejection that you just went thru. Writing is like a catharsis for the brain. It is like a “mental enema” that helps you release the disappointment. If not,… you keep on emotionally building up the “bruises.” We become a broken record club that keep on tallying up the “no’s” that we have collected. Choose to start this revamped way of thinking, instead of being a broken record club.
Write and release…seriously, write and release. Then write and focus on your next goal, your new goal. This might only take 2 minutes, but it works for the subconscious. It works powerfully. Write it down and put it in an easy place to read. And read it again. Because the rejection will come again, and you can choose to take control of balancing it out.
Minimize the emotional bruises. Stay in control. Stay focused. Stay positive. Stay profitable.
You are worth it!