The Only Thing You Have To Fear Is Fear Itself!

Yes that sentence was said by the late, great Franklin D. Roosevelt at his 1st Inaugural speech.

And we WERE a country was living in fear. We had high unemployment, we had social and government and

international problems that SCARED most of us. Sounds familiar to what is going on today!

The play on words of the acronym F.E.A.R. is “False Expectations Appearing Real”

How often have you been afraid, truly afraid? Probably more than what you realize. But that is good. The experience of fear is what we learn from. And it usually was an important lesson. Whether you failed a test and didn’t get the job. Whether you failed yourself…and didn’t achieve what you were hoping to. Or whether you failed your parents, your child or someone in need.

You WILL remember that failure.

Look at how many people have failed and have given up. And now think of how many people have failed and did not give up! Thomas Edison said that “he never failed….he only learned new ways of how not to try it that way…again.”  Even after he went totally deaf, Mr. Edison would BITE as hard as he could into the phonograph, so that he could FEEL the vibration of the music! Michael Jordan said he had failed his team so many times, that he lost over 36 VERY important games and hundreds of regular games…BUT he never gave up.

You never gave up trying to learn how to ride a bike, or swim or ski or learn any new sport. And if you did….it probably haunted you. And probably still does to this day! It takes discipline, attitude and a strong belief in the most important person in your life…YOU!

In my book “Who Stole My Confidence?” 7 Rock  Solid Steps To Take Yours Back!” I discuss in detail how to pick up the pieces after you felt you had “lost them all”, and didn’t know where to go next. Remember you can lose your confidence in yourself and wallow and allow yourself to feel fearful, uncertain and not know what to do next. AND this can happen to you at any stage in life. But you can adapt.You can pick up the pieces… and you can feel more  confident….one step at a time. At my site StrongIncentives.com you can read and discover how hire me as a speaker and trainer to your teams and incredible employees on how to become more “resilient” and less fearful of what can or could go wrong!

I watched my home team Green Bay Packers take a beating on the opening night of this season….but I know  they will learn from their mistakes and apply it to their next game….and ideally WIN.

So should you! Remember the MOST important person in your life is you, and always will be. Everyone has obstacles and we all handle them differently. Think of Helen Keller, and realize nothing can or should stop you, Close your eyes, and your ears and live in her world for 90 seconds, and realize how lucky  you really are!

Eileen Strong

“Thanks for the memories……..So as I gaze back at this picture I realize the journey that many of us have been on.

Woodrow Wilson Elementary School, West Allis, Wisconsin

Smiles, friendships, growth, loss and aging are all innocently presented in this picture. More than enough of these smiling 3rd graders have already passed away. Quite the shock! Makes you realize how brief life truly is.
As a professional speaker and trainer I share many stories from my childhood…and capture them to my audience memories.
I’ll say….”come back with me” to your years of innocence and fun filled experiences. Maybe not so much fun, but truly memorable. Or as the late great Jerry Garcia sang from the Grateful Dead….”What a long strange trip it’s been!”
Well that IS the truth. Each day lived, is another day of life that we were blessed to live and learn from.
Whether you feel alive and vibrant or slow and tired due to a multitude of reasons….you truly appreciate each day. I know you’ve heard that before….but think about it again. What if you knew you had only 1 month…or1 week or 1 day left? What would you do? What would you WANT to experience.
Please take every precious moment you are blessed with and savor it.
You are worth it….because NO one is as INCREDIBLE AS YOU!
Believe that….think that….and live it!

Presentations & Visual Aids: It’s show and tell

Most presenters find that using some sort of visual aid helps them to engage their audience. Some people, however, make the mistake of leaning too heavily on their visual aids. Doing so detracts from their speech and distracts the audience.  Think back on the age-old elementary school activity “show and tell”.  You show your audience something and then tell them a story about it. That is how you should use any visual aid in your presentation.

Here are some great visual aids that can add to the success of your presentation when used to enhance your message.

PowerPoint Slides:  Skip the titles, bullet points, and dense paragraphs (they only distract the audience). Simple photos on a projection screen can visually illustrate a point and begin to tell your story without going overboard.  Choose simple, well-composed photos that don’t have busy backgrounds or poor lighting for the best effect. Put…

Why do people lie?

Imagine if the world suffered from “Pinocchio” syndrome? Everyday all of us started with an average size nose. No problems, no exaggerations, no false “small talk” where you weren’t paying attention in the first place. Your “nose” would stay the same size!

But as you begin your day….your nose WOULD grow. Why because you LIED!

Then average person does it at least twice a day.

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Research shows that married couples lie at least 14 times a week to each other. They could be small “white” lies….but they still are lies!

We lie to get out of or cover up a mistake. It is just the nature of the human being. Animals don’t do this, they just go on existing and living in the moment.

A study has shown that a child becomes exposed to lying to someone else between the ages of 3 4. If you wonder how we do this…it is just by example. If a child receives a gift, and they “don’t want it or like it”, they simply say so! But then they are corrected by their parents. They watch their parents tell the gift giver, “Oh no, she really does like your gift. She just wants to go out and play.”

We blatantly make up excuses in front of our child. And the first lesson in lying begins!
And it continues on from there.
Starting today, challenge yourself. Become cognizant of when you think you are concocting an excuse or a lie. Hold back, think about it and then speak the truth.
Try it…you’ll like it!

If you have been lied to and it has hurt you or affected your job, share it with me. I am in the process of working on my 2nd book, “Liars, Tigers, S.O.B.s Oh My!” I would love your input and experiences to add to my book. Names would not be shown, but the experience could and would help other people.

Why? Because we all learn from each other…and because we all lie!
Contact me at Eileen@StrongIncentives.com

Staying Focused…easier said than done!

Ok, I’ll admit it…I suffer from “Squirrel syndrome.”   (I mean ADHD)…but I digress.

It is oh so easily for all of us to let our mind wander and not finish a task that you initially set out to do. It is a fact that our attention span has been drastically reduced,  because of all of the instant response media that is available to us.
Todays Millenials (people born between 1980 – 2000) have created a shorter attention span…it seems for all of us. Immediacy, is the new norm for most of us. We want text messages answered as soon as they are sent. It seems that phone calls are getting harder to get a response from. And God forbid…doing something as archaic as an email, obviously takes too long.  As long as there are different forms of communication, it is up to us and the receiving party which is the best mode to use.

Being the proud parent of two Millenials, I know how they think, act and respond.  And it surely compliments my “Squirrel” mentality. But that doesn’t make it right. There are two good books that deal with the art of responding and reacting. The first book is called “Send.” It deals with the fact that we send emails too quickly and frequently regret what we’ve sent. And this can and DOES cause problems and repercussions. The author wants us to all to wait 30minutes before hitting “that” button. So that regret doesn’t take place.

“Once words are spoken, a thousand horses cannot pull them away!” I love that sentence. It is honest and pure. Haven’t you ever regretted saying or doing something…I sure have.

The other book is called “Blink”…and it discusses how we make up “our mind” within the briefest amount of time. Literally in the “blink of an eye.” Research has shown that a jury makes up their personal “final” decision, within the first 7 minutes!!! And that trial might go on for a long time!

So staying focused, knowing what goal you have in mind is critical. As I tell my audiences…”Do not go pass “GO”, do not collect $200, do not buy any Hotels”…till you have done your research and know what next steps  methodically need to be done. As Bob Villa from the TV show “This Old House” would say: “Measure twice…cut once!”

Know what needs to be done. If you  DO get distracted, pull back, regroup and continue on. This strategy has been recognized and respected by many time management experts. “Start, continue & then finish…before you go on to the next project.”

I’m getting better at this, with time. And it does make a difference!

Oh wait…..I just saw a squirrel go by…………………..

Eager to have your teams learn some powerful time management tools? Call me in for a training session or a webinar to have your teams productivity & profitability improved!

It is easy to reach me at EileenStrong.com or Eileen@StrongIncentives. And yes you can even TEXT me at 732-233-3668.

Now take a deep breath and get back to what you were doing!

“Why NOT you?”

Russell Wilson’s dad said this to his son…repeatedly…regarding his “limitations” of being only 5’11″!
Coaches questioned whether he really could be a solid, successful quarterback and that size would hinder him.

Obviously he proved everyone wrong…as did all of his incredible teammates. Think you can, think you can’t was proven again to be right. They thought they could and they DID!

When you are making a presentation…know that you CAN make a great presentation…..and you WILL.

Remember, know your material.
Know your audience.
And KNOW that you will make a great presentation….and you will!
Just like Russell Wilson!

Call me to find out how great of a presentation YOU can make!
732-389-3868…..a simple call with powerful results!

The powerful fear of speaking in public…is quite real!

Two weeks ago in Las Vegas at the world famous Electronics show….a CEO of a major firm….stood in front of his audience and started to present. Unfortunately, the prompter PowerPoint failed. He stood there “paralyzed” with fright. He scanned the audience and said “I can’t do this!”

Do you ever feel as if you are being sent for punishment because you had to make a presentation? 

 

What is YOUR attitude level of confidence whenever you have to speak? Is it like this CEO’s…or do you take it in stride, present take the consequences? Seriously you ARE in control. Lay out your presentation in a 5 W format. Who-What- Where -When -Why. Then list one feature followed by 3 benefits. Use this as a skeletal layout then fill in the relevant material. Use this for structure….and practice , practice, practice! You WILL SUCCEED!href=”http://eileenstrong.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/image1.jpg”gt;Image this!”

 

 

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Presentations & Visual Aids: It’s show and tell

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Most presenters find that using some sort of visual aid helps them to engage their audience. Some people, however, make the mistake of leaning too heavily on their visual aids. Doing so detracts from their speech and distracts the audience.  Think back on the age-old elementary school activity “show and tell”.  You show your audience something and then tell them a story about it.