Got confidence?

Whatever stage in life you might be at, your confidence can be challenged at anytime.
Whether you are in negotiations for a job, promotion or a pay raise, you will probably question yourself. Possibly you will have second thoughts while it is taking place, or more so, you will question yourself after the event is over with.
It will be inevitable that you will have some slight doubt that you may have said something wrong.
This is natural and this is healthy. Be cautious though. You can be your own worst enemy very easily, in your journey of wanting to see only the best results. The best approach is addressing this issue to rehearse your thoughts and your actions!
Review what questions you would ask, if the roles where reversed?
Seriously play it out in your mind. We tend to “beat ourselves up afterwards”…and we do it quite well. Instead, because you were prepared; because you anticipated potential questions or topics. And because of that, no matter what direction the conversation went….you were comfortable. You had confidence. You felt good.

When you carry that strong belief system with you, there is a presence to you. And other people know it.
It might be subtle…but it is to your advantage.

Yes, confidence takes practice. Feeling good about yourself is a constant journey. And it is up to you to control it. Seriously….it is.
Otherwise, fear will take over. Even in the smallest amounts. And then you begin to question yourself again.
Talk it out loud how you want to sound, how you want to look. Get comfortable with it. Take just a few actions and practice them. Then do it again….and again. At a certain point, it will feel comfortable. But it is up to you take the first small step.
This is an investment in yourself and your future. Make it a worthy one. Believe in you and believe in the positive outcome that YOU can generate.
As a presentations skills coach and a therapist, I can help you make changes within your life. Strong Incentives, truly does offer powerful results!

The surprise of success…..

Making a presentation is easy….for me. Making a presentation with confidence, is frustrating and futile for many. The message you want to get across, comes thru in your mind, but not from your mouth. Nerves take over. People are watching you and waiting to hear what you are saying next.
Then fear becomes the inevitable…and you lose the flow of your presentation. Trust me at this point you ARE being your own worst enemy. Your audience, usually is compassionate and will allow a stumble or two. But after that, you have to take control of the situation and realize that it is up to YOU to feel confident and continue to make a presentation of material that is worth listening to.
And the fact remains that this takes practice and confidence and focused concentration of what your objective is.
As an Adjunct Professor of Marketing at Kean, I know what I am speaking about at class that day, but you must be able to flow with the environment. And this takes experience.
Fear can overwhelm many people and they then take a step backwards, and they tend to lose their “mojo” while presenting their topic.
The acronym for fear is F.alse E.xpectations A.ppearing R.eal. But maybe it is not false…maybe you did make a mistake. Simply own up to it, state that you are nervous and take two deep breaths.
I am sure you have heard the sentence “If it is to be, it is up to me.”
Well that is the truth.
Snap out of the fear mode. Become of aware of your skills, take those two deep breaths, anchor your fingers onto something solid….and continue.
Simply keep going. Do not wallow in a communication failure.
Remember that movie “Cool Hand Luke”…where the famous sentence was said…”What we have here is a failure to communicate!”
Well, don’t let a failure become a reality.
Take focus, use your knowledge and knock
your audience out with a surprising good presentation.
Hey “Rocky” did it more than once….and so can you!
You will be surprised by your success!
If you have speaking fears that need to be addressed, contact Strong Incentives, and we will work with you directly to create a presentation that is a “knockout.”
Why not be a winner, who will relish the success of a great presentation, and realize that fear is something that is no longer a part of your speaking repertoire.