Confidence growth for you!

study1Your confidence in yourself can change on a daily basis. If someone talked behind your back, and you got word of it….first off you are worried, or scared and then you begin to think it through again and again. Why would someone talk about me that way?
Why would they talk about me behind their back? What did I ever do to them?

And the self doubt and worry begins. You question yourself and what you could have done that would have rectified it. You think it through again, and again and again. What did I do wrong?
Why doesn’t he/she call? Should I call them or just put it up on my facebook wall?
This is a normal process of questioning yourself. Sometimes you do it daily and sometimes you might even do it hourly…if you are in fear of approaching someone.
All of this comes back to the fact of believing in yourself and how you personally feel about yourself. How you look, act and present yourself to others….is an ongoing journey of growth and change. There is no right way or wrong way. These are just opportunities to find out what worked at that point in time.
The trial by error is sometimes the best learning lesson. WHOA! I sure am not going to do that one again.
So you back off….regroup your thoughts. Talk it over with someone….look in the mirror and realize that you can start that conversation again. Maybe with someone else.
Backing off out of fear will cripple you in the long run.
Believe in yourself, in your quiet moments and in your public moments.
Continue to take uncomfortable steps in a new direction.
It probably will “suck” each any everytime you try it, but it will make you more confident in yourself the next time you try it.
Choose not to be your own worst enemy.
Write down what you want.
Say what you want.
Believe in what you want.
And GO GET IT!

Keepin the attitude…with the Attitude Amazon.

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EileenStrong.com

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Confusion is going to happen!

It seems that somedays things go extremely well, and fall into place. Friendships are strong, grades are doing pretty good, and classes actually make sense.
Possible new relationships seem to be working in the right way.
I mean it really is falling into place.
AND THEN……..IT THEN IT TANKS FAST!!!
Either a grade lower than you expected.
Or a phone wasn’t returned…..or you got bad news from somewhere. It simply sucks quickly.
You gotta regroup, and rethink it through….without beating yourself up.
Ask your friend or teacher if they have a
few minutes.
Be candid, and ask directly the issue at hand.
Otherwise you will be stuck.
You can even find yourself sinking fast.
Oprah has a Friday LIVE session where several topics are brought up.
Chris Brown and Rhiana (a.k.a. Robin)
decided to go back to the guy who beat the crap out of her less than a month ago.
That is how quickly life can turn for you or on you.
It happened to me. One year my Mom died and I was in an abusive relationship. I was only 22….just like Rhiana.
Let me know if you would have gone back to Chris. Probably you have heard that if “he hit you once….he will surely hit you again!”
(That too happened to me…it really is scary, and messes with your confidence, beyond belief.)
Oprah is not positive about the image that this young singer is showing other young women.
The fact is 1 in 4 young women will be physically, verbally or sexually abused between their late teens and late 20′s.
Take stock in yourself….don’t become a statistic.
There is no one like you…no one!!!

Keeping the attitude…..the Atttiude Amazon!

EileenStrong.com

Spring Break…Is It Broken?

So the partying has begun, or for some is over with. Have you done anything you regret…..or was it a blast. New friends, new relationships, broken hearts, texting and memories.
Did you fall in love or just in lust for all that just out there for the taking.
Enjoy the memories, but you gotta realize that extensive, intense partying has dues that have to be paid.
Not just the physical stuff, but sometimes the repercussions from it.

If you had a great time, and enjoyed everyday….then you were in the majority. But some will find themselves pregnant. (Gosh, how did that happen?)
Some will have been hurt in car crashes from the drinking or even kidnapped in Mexico. The stories are real and some are daunting.
Moderation is still the key word to all of this. You CAN have a great time….but pace yourself. This is a once in a lifetime experience. Make it work for you.
Enjoy the memories….and share the photo’s on facebook….and look forward to next year…..in moderation!

Keepin’ the attitude,

The attitude amazon,
Eileen Strong

Keep your confidence as you start a fresh year at college!

Wanting to be accepted as you move into a new room or new dormitory is your priority. You simply

WANT TO FIT IN!  Everybody wants to be able to feel good about themselves. Are you judging yourself too harshly.

We really can beat ourselves up…and no one can do it as well as ourselves!  Give yourself the complete permission to be yourself. BREATHE IT IN….LET IT GO….BREATHE IT IN AGAIN…AND BE FRIENDLY…and BE YOURSELF.

My first roommate smoked cigars in the room and got away with it…..but when she took my clothes and wore them, was TOO MUCH.  She was 5 ft. 1″ and I’m 5′ 10″.  Now c’mon, that is quite a height difference. She simply had the “balls” to take what she wanted and NOT  care about the repercussions.

I left that roommate after 1 semester. Some things are simply not meant to work out.

With the pressure of classes, homework, money, acceptance (rejection)….you’ve got a lot on your plate to handle.

If it is bothering you, what is taking place all around….write it down and shred it. No one needs to know about your angst….but you’ll feel better by writing it and shredding. In a way you got it off your chest and out of your mind. Hey this REALLY WORKS!

Seriously try this, it will give you a calmness and clarity to stay focused.  By staying focused you will be more at ease to accept new relationships, and let go of ones that you simply don’t need anymore.

Stay true to you. You’ll feel better and so will the people in your life!

At my website ConfidenceInCollege.com you get even more info. Let me know what’s going on.

Keepin the Attitude,

Eileen

Friendship, Self Esteem and You!

Ever question how your friends really feel about you? Sometimes, the truth is that your friends can change. Maybe the chemistry just isn’t there anymore.
Remember, you really need only ONE BEST FRIEND….all the rest can be acquaintances that you can hang with.
A really good, good friend will be there with you….when it seems that the rest of the world has walked out on you.
I have a sign in my kitchen that says…..” A good friend will be there when you call….but a GREAT friend will be sitting next to you in the cell saying “Damn that was fun!”
Not that  great fun has to go to that extent…but it is kinda cool.
I still have my best friends from elementary school. You can show up at any time, anywhere in the country and even though months have passed…it will seem like you just saw them.
They are always there for you….anytime and anyplace.
But you have got to work at having friends. What you want from a friend is also what you have to put into a friendship. It is a two way street.
Make sure you are listening when they talk.
Be a great listener. And don’t comment right away. Sometimes a friend just needs and wants to talk.
Learn to be quiet.
Learn to listen.
Genuinely listen….and then respond.
Also learn to RESPOND NOT REACT!
Be the friend you want to be…that is the best friend YOU could ask for.
What you will get in return, will be a safe place that you can go to anytime.
The TV show “Friends” was a great show….how would you place your friends….if you were the casting agent?
Think about it.
It should bring a smile to your face.
Better yet….listen to Bette Midlers song……”But you gotta have friends”
It’s a great song to listen to with YOUR friends.
Keep Smiling,

Eileen
ConfidenceInCollege.com

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Welcome to WordPress.com. After you read this, you should delete and write your own post, with a new title above. Or hit Add New on the left (of the admin dashboard) to start a fresh post.

Here are some suggestions for your first post.

  1. You can find new ideas for what to blog about by reading the Daily Post.
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Hello world!

Welcome to WordPress.com. After you read this, you should delete and write your own post, with a new title above. Or hit Add New on the left (of the admin dashboard) to start a fresh post.

Here are some suggestions for your first post.

  1. You can find new ideas for what to blog about by reading the Daily Post.
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  3. Make some changes to this page, and then hit preview on the right. You can alway preview any post or edit you before you share it to the world.

Have you lost some confidence in yourself?

When Kirstie Alley was competing on”Dancing with the stars”…she said “I am so happy to be getting back my confidence. I’ve lost it the past few years, and it’s  time to get it back.”

I believe that everyone could relate to her statement!

Haven’t you lost your confidence professionally or personally recently? Hasn’t someone said something or did something that “chiseled” away at yours?  And you let it eat at you.

Possibly you lost sleep over it, or ate a row of cookies….simply feeling miserable, yet also confused.

Well life is like that. Look at how many young women observe the models on magazines or on TV commercials and worried why they did not look like that.

Many of them do not even know that “photo shop” was being put into good use with those models, and that gal truly did not even look like that. There are so many examples that I can list here… where we are challenged to look thinner, be prettier, drive better cars,….and the list can go on and on and on. This is just part of the issues that I talk about in my book “Who Stole My Confidence?  Rock Solid Steps to Take Yours Back!”

Understand that  it still comes back to the point on reclaiming how we feel about ourselves. And this is a journey. Keeping a healthy self esteem and level of confidence, is a daily process of acceptance. Of recognizing that we do have faults and we can must accept and adapt to them. We have to give ourselves the PERMISSION to grow from what we have.

Acceptance and self respect are the roots of this process. And loving who you are is the critically important first step. Easier said than done…. if you have been teased, chastised or yelled at.  Begin writing down what you truly think are qualities that you like and respect about yourself. And you may have to look deep, because you have suppressed it for so long. Find even one thing, and honor it. Then look for another. It may temporarily be a short list…..but it will grow. Trust me it will.

Just begin this list first…almost like balancing out your check book. You can only take out, what you put in. Thus keep investing in yourself…it will be the best thing you have ever done!

Contact me Eileen Strong, if you want a customized CD created for you to take powerful next steps in your confidence and self esteem. There are many posts to come in the near future, showing you how to reclaim and grow your self confidence. Stick with me, and you CAN and will feel better about yourself!

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Have you lost some confidence in yourself?

When Kirstie Alley was competing on”Dancing with the stars”…she said “I am so happy to be getting back my confidence. I’ve lost it the past few years, and it’s  time to get it back.”

I believe that everyone could relate to her statement!

Haven’t you lost your confidence professionally or personally recently? Hasn’t someone said something or did something that “chiseled” away at yours?  And you let it eat at you.

Possibly you lost sleep over it, or ate a row of cookies….simply feeling miserable, yet also confused.

Well life is like that. Look at how many young women observe the models on magazines or on TV commercials and worried why they did not look like that.

Many of them do not even know that “photo shop” was being put into good use with those models, and that gal truly did not even look like that. There are so many examples that I can list here… where we are challenged to look thinner, be prettier, drive better cars,….and the list can go on and on and on. This is just part of the issues that I talk about in my book “Who Stole My Confidence?  Rock Solid Steps to Take Yours Back!”

Understand that  it still comes back to the point on reclaiming how we feel about ourselves. And this is a journey. Keeping a healthy self esteem and level of confidence, is a daily process of acceptance. Of recognizing that we do have faults and we can must accept and adapt to them. We have to give ourselves the PERMISSION to grow from what we have.

Acceptance and self respect are the roots of this process. And loving who you are is the critically important first step. Easier said than done…. if you have been teased, chastised or yelled at.  Begin writing down what you truly think are qualities that you like and respect about yourself. And you may have to look deep, because you have suppressed it for so long. Find even one thing, and honor it. Then look for another. It may temporarily be a short list…..but it will grow. Trust me it will.

Just begin this list first…almost like balancing out your check book. You can only take out, what you put in. Thus keep investing in yourself…it will be the best thing you have ever done!

Contact me Eileen Strong, if you want a customized CD created for you to take powerful next steps in your confidence and self esteem. There are many posts to come in the near future, showing you how to reclaim and grow your self confidence. Stick with me, and you CAN and will feel better about yourself!

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