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Staying Focused…easier said than done!

Ok, I’ll admit it…I suffer from “Squirrel syndrome.”   (I mean ADHD)…but I digress.

It is oh so easily for all of us to let our mind wander and not finish a task that you initially set out to do. It is a fact that our attention span has been drastically reduced,  because of all of the instant response media that is available to us.
Todays Millenials (people born between 1980 – 2000) have created a shorter attention span…it seems for all of us. Immediacy, is the new norm for most of us. We want text messages answered as soon as they are sent. It seems that phone calls are getting harder to get a response from. And God forbid…doing something as archaic as an email, obviously takes too long.  As long as there are different forms of communication, it is up to us and the receiving party which is the best mode to use.

Being the proud parent of two Millenials, I know how they think, act and respond.  And it surely compliments my “Squirrel” mentality. But that doesn’t make it right. There are two good books that deal with the art of responding and reacting. The first book is called “Send.” It deals with the fact that we send emails too quickly and frequently regret what we’ve sent. And this can and DOES cause problems and repercussions. The author wants us to all to wait 30minutes before hitting “that” button. So that regret doesn’t take place.

“Once words are spoken, a thousand horses cannot pull them away!” I love that sentence. It is honest and pure. Haven’t you ever regretted saying or doing something…I sure have.

The other book is called “Blink”…and it discusses how we make up “our mind” within the briefest amount of time. Literally in the “blink of an eye.” Research has shown that a jury makes up their personal “final” decision, within the first 7 minutes!!! And that trial might go on for a long time!

So staying focused, knowing what goal you have in mind is critical. As I tell my audiences…”Do not go pass “GO”, do not collect $200, do not buy any Hotels”…till you have done your research and know what next steps  methodically need to be done. As Bob Villa from the TV show “This Old House” would say: “Measure twice…cut once!”

Know what needs to be done. If you  DO get distracted, pull back, regroup and continue on. This strategy has been recognized and respected by many time management experts. “Start, continue & then finish…before you go on to the next project.”

I’m getting better at this, with time. And it does make a difference!

Oh wait…..I just saw a squirrel go by…………………..

Eager to have your teams learn some powerful time management tools? Call me in for a training session or a webinar to have your teams productivity & profitability improved!

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Now take a deep breath and get back to what you were doing!

The power of failure and embarrassment…..

How frequently we only remember what we ‘screwed up on.” We repeat the atrocity in our mind again and again and again. Rarely do we repeat the moments when everything went smoothly. Those events seem to blend and blur into the past.
If we messed up on a sales presentation and lost the sale….we repeat it again and gain more emotional scar tissue. Yet we spend little time, giving ourselves accolades of praise when we got the sale, or the appointment or even the date that we were hoping to take place.
Everyday truly requires us to recognize even the little things that we did….big or small. Simply recognize them and give yourself credit.
Whether you put in a long day of commuting, being productive at work and dragging yourself back home. RECOGNIZE IT!
This was another day of your life, that you did the best you could do. Stop judging, stop ignoring and start recognizing.
We tend to forget the norm.
We forget the beauty of the brevity of one more day of life.
I recently went to see the replica of Henry Thoreau’s cabin at Walden’s pond. And I purchased his book. It was a wise investment. Everyday I read at least two more pages, just to “check in” with the premise that today was well spent. That today was productive, focused and had an awareness of each activity done.
How we frequently we forget this. WHY?
Stop beating yourself up.
Start giving yourself a “TaDa” everyday.
Recognize the uniqueness of you. Don’t be shy on doing it. Appreciate what you did today.
Seriously you might not get a tomorrow.
Don’t focus on the “oops” but focus on the “wow’s” of the simplicity of today.
It was and is YOUR day and no one else’s.
Claim it and enjoy it because it is your life…and no one can live it like you!!
I have been dubbed the “Attitude Amazon” and intend to make that title stick with style. My company name of Strong Incentives…sounds motivational…and I do motivate…your mind and your belief system. You are worth it!

Dragging lack of confidence in your personal and professional life?

The fact is we are creatures of habit. We tend to drag things along with us. Yes, we have learned a lesson. This is good. BUT we tend to drag the negative and emotional luggage along with us.
Their is a sentence that might seem trite…but it is powerful. And it is……
“Yesterday is history…
Tomorrow is a mystery….and today is the present.”
LIve for today, right now. Make it the best you can. Irrelevant if someone in the office was unethical about something. Take next steps to address it and use the T.L.C. method. This stands for TAKE IT….LEAVE IT….or CHANGE IT.
This is your choice. And if you just drag it with you back home and back to work, you will keep accumulating a lot of negative luggage.
Address the issue, in a mode that works for you.
If it is costing you sleep, write it down, the WHOLE issue….and SHRED IT!
That’s right you read it correctly.
This is a mental “enema”, and you need to get it out of your thoughts.
Take control of your emotions, and chose to respond not react.
You’ll feel better about yourself. Your productivity will improve. And your life will continue…because you are living in the present.

The power of networking…..successfully! Or….how I learned to overcome procrastination.

Sometimes it  seems that networking is waste of time. In fact I have a business card that I pass out and it says   “Is this the best use of my time?”

I pass it out to several people that I meet at events. Then when I  seem them later at a different event, I frequently hear from people that the card with that phrase is STILL taped to the front of their desk or computer.

Seriously,  just think of it. How well do you make use of your time?

I have always loved the wisdom of recognized business speaker Brian Tracy. His book “Eat That Frog“is one of my favorites. The gist of the book is that you should always do the worst thing first in the morning…and I mean the thing that you procrastinate over; you simply DO NOT WANT TO DO. But then it is DONE!  And Tracy then says, if you have two horrible things to do…do the worst thing first. He calls them “frogs.” Big and ugly green frogs that seem to control our life in so many ways.

Procrastination usually comes in the form of that “frog.”  We put off doing what needs to be done until we are pressured into doing it at last minute.

How often have you done that? In fact, might you even fall into that category called the “3 P’s?”

Packrat / Procrastinator / Perfectionist

If one is a procrastinator, they frequently will be a packrat keeping “important” things in their life, that they think they will use another time. Someday, somewhere…somehow. Yet when they do the task that they have put off doing…they do it extremely well. Because they are perfectionist. Wanting to be  in control at all times.

Quite frankly I am married to one. And it sure is taxing.

Some people are only 2 out of the “3 P’s.”

Which one are you? Especially when it comes to networking. This skill is critically important in running your business successfully. Meeting people who should know about your business, but you never get around to mingling with them OR  your target rich audience effectively. You observe other people doing that….but you attempt to and do NOT follow thru. Question yourself and find out what you are afraid of. Rejection, objections or possible acceptance?

Don’t be your own worst enemy. Get out there now…and just do it!

No wonder “Nike” uses that for a logo!

Share with me your thoughts!

Eileen Strong….”The Attitude Amazon.”

"Who Stole My Confidence?"

Success!!! I have finished my first book and am ready to go to print and online. This great book deals with all aspects of losing, gaining and keeping your confidence thru life.

I show you 7 “Rock Solid” steps to take yours back. It is told thru a first person story of a successful journey that can and will help you take yours back with ease.
Follow me on my journey thru Amazon and publishing as this book comes to life along with the other two on the way to creation.

Here’s to a good read and a positive response from you and all the next great steps you are capable of making!

Eileen