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How to speak confidently in public….and actually feel comfortable doing it!

Ugh….I’ve got to speak…and I really, really don’t want to!! I mean seriously, I don’t want to! First off, it is a natural apprehension. Even a professional speaker can be a little on edge.
If you have ever read interviews of established actors….they always mention how apprensive they are…”how many butterflies” they have in their stomach. And actually that is a good thing. It gives you that edge.
But it is when you let your fear control you, and overwhelm you. It’s when the F.E.A.R. takes place  (F.alse E.pectations A.ppearing R.eal).

Because your mind can allow you to feel and stay …”out of control!”
There is NO reason for that to be a dominating factor.
Your confidence is an ongoing growth process. Each opportunity is a new one. You are on an increased learning curve.  And the more that you have the opportunity to speak in front of ANY size audience, the more natural you will feel. But if you avoid it, and stick to only what you feel comfortable with….than you WILL maintain that same fear.

You have only become comfortable at what you do,…. because of doing it over and over again. It becomes 2nd nature to you. Think of how you perform at a job, or at a sport that you like. You simply just do it!

Like that NIke commercial tag line goes….”Just Do It!”

If you don’t maintain that attitude…the fear will continue to fester and control you. There is a great song sung incredibly well by Patti LaPone…..”I’ve got a new atttiude.”
Maybe that is a song you might crank up prior to giving a speech….or find a song that does it for you…one that motivates and excites YOU! It is the music that gets you moving….maybe one that you use on a treadmill, to “psych” you up and keep you moving. Hearing that music might be all you need to be the catalyst to get you there and present with energy!
Believe it or not, it can be something as simple as that. Think of how many times you have heard a certain piece of music, and you are compelled to “crank it up loud.”

Finally, write down the fear that is controlling you. Are you afraid you will not be welcomed, liked, accepted…. or will you be boring? By writing it down you recognize the issue at hand. This action helps you to actually control your fear. “You got to name it to claim it” is actually quite true.
I have been involved in clinical Hypnosis for over 25 years now, (PowerfulResultsHypnosis) and am amazed to this day, how powerful the mind is! I have seen clients make drastic differences…just thru visualizing how they knew they could and WOULD look.

So Can You!!!
By listening to a reinforced message that is repeated in a safe, and positive reinforced way…you CAN eliminate those public speaking fears.
Contact me, (Eileen@StrongIncentives.com) to have a customized CD made for you…if you have a major presentation coming up. It truly is within your mind to take control of this fear.
Discover how to speak and love it.

You can do it…in fact…you can choose to….”Just Do It!”

The power of failure and embarrassment…..

How frequently we only remember what we ‘screwed up on.” We repeat the atrocity in our mind again and again and again. Rarely do we repeat the moments when everything went smoothly. Those events seem to blend and blur into the past.
If we messed up on a sales presentation and lost the sale….we repeat it again and gain more emotional scar tissue. Yet we spend little time, giving ourselves accolades of praise when we got the sale, or the appointment or even the date that we were hoping to take place.
Everyday truly requires us to recognize even the little things that we did….big or small. Simply recognize them and give yourself credit.
Whether you put in a long day of commuting, being productive at work and dragging yourself back home. RECOGNIZE IT!
This was another day of your life, that you did the best you could do. Stop judging, stop ignoring and start recognizing.
We tend to forget the norm.
We forget the beauty of the brevity of one more day of life.
I recently went to see the replica of Henry Thoreau’s cabin at Walden’s pond. And I purchased his book. It was a wise investment. Everyday I read at least two more pages, just to “check in” with the premise that today was well spent. That today was productive, focused and had an awareness of each activity done.
How we frequently we forget this. WHY?
Stop beating yourself up.
Start giving yourself a “TaDa” everyday.
Recognize the uniqueness of you. Don’t be shy on doing it. Appreciate what you did today.
Seriously you might not get a tomorrow.
Don’t focus on the “oops” but focus on the “wow’s” of the simplicity of today.
It was and is YOUR day and no one else’s.
Claim it and enjoy it because it is your life…and no one can live it like you!!
I have been dubbed the “Attitude Amazon” and intend to make that title stick with style. My company name of Strong Incentives…sounds motivational…and I do motivate…your mind and your belief system. You are worth it!