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The Only Thing You Have To Fear Is Fear Itself!

Yes that sentence was said by the late, great Franklin D. Roosevelt at his 1st Inaugural speech.

And we WERE a country was living in fear. We had high unemployment, we had social and government and

international problems that SCARED most of us. Sounds familiar to what is going on today!

The play on words of the acronym F.E.A.R. is “False Expectations Appearing Real”

How often have you been afraid, truly afraid? Probably more than what you realize. But that is good. The experience of fear is what we learn from. And it usually was an important lesson. Whether you failed a test and didn’t get the job. Whether you failed yourself…and didn’t achieve what you were hoping to. Or whether you failed your parents, your child or someone in need.

You WILL remember that failure.

Look at how many people have failed and have given up. And now think of how many people have failed and did not give up! Thomas Edison said that “he never failed….he only learned new ways of how not to try it that way…again.”  Even after he went totally deaf, Mr. Edison would BITE as hard as he could into the phonograph, so that he could FEEL the vibration of the music! Michael Jordan said he had failed his team so many times, that he lost over 36 VERY important games and hundreds of regular games…BUT he never gave up.

You never gave up trying to learn how to ride a bike, or swim or ski or learn any new sport. And if you did….it probably haunted you. And probably still does to this day! It takes discipline, attitude and a strong belief in the most important person in your life…YOU!

In my book “Who Stole My Confidence?” 7 Rock  Solid Steps To Take Yours Back!” I discuss in detail how to pick up the pieces after you felt you had “lost them all”, and didn’t know where to go next. Remember you can lose your confidence in yourself and wallow and allow yourself to feel fearful, uncertain and not know what to do next. AND this can happen to you at any stage in life. But you can adapt.You can pick up the pieces… and you can feel more  confident….one step at a time. At my site StrongIncentives.com you can read and discover how hire me as a speaker and trainer to your teams and incredible employees on how to become more “resilient” and less fearful of what can or could go wrong!

I watched my home team Green Bay Packers take a beating on the opening night of this season….but I know  they will learn from their mistakes and apply it to their next game….and ideally WIN.

So should you! Remember the MOST important person in your life is you, and always will be. Everyone has obstacles and we all handle them differently. Think of Helen Keller, and realize nothing can or should stop you, Close your eyes, and your ears and live in her world for 90 seconds, and realize how lucky  you really are!

The power of failure and embarrassment…..

How frequently we only remember what we ‘screwed up on.” We repeat the atrocity in our mind again and again and again. Rarely do we repeat the moments when everything went smoothly. Those events seem to blend and blur into the past.
If we messed up on a sales presentation and lost the sale….we repeat it again and gain more emotional scar tissue. Yet we spend little time, giving ourselves accolades of praise when we got the sale, or the appointment or even the date that we were hoping to take place.
Everyday truly requires us to recognize even the little things that we did….big or small. Simply recognize them and give yourself credit.
Whether you put in a long day of commuting, being productive at work and dragging yourself back home. RECOGNIZE IT!
This was another day of your life, that you did the best you could do. Stop judging, stop ignoring and start recognizing.
We tend to forget the norm.
We forget the beauty of the brevity of one more day of life.
I recently went to see the replica of Henry Thoreau’s cabin at Walden’s pond. And I purchased his book. It was a wise investment. Everyday I read at least two more pages, just to “check in” with the premise that today was well spent. That today was productive, focused and had an awareness of each activity done.
How we frequently we forget this. WHY?
Stop beating yourself up.
Start giving yourself a “TaDa” everyday.
Recognize the uniqueness of you. Don’t be shy on doing it. Appreciate what you did today.
Seriously you might not get a tomorrow.
Don’t focus on the “oops” but focus on the “wow’s” of the simplicity of today.
It was and is YOUR day and no one else’s.
Claim it and enjoy it because it is your life…and no one can live it like you!!
I have been dubbed the “Attitude Amazon” and intend to make that title stick with style. My company name of Strong Incentives…sounds motivational…and I do motivate…your mind and your belief system. You are worth it!