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The surprise of success…..

Making a presentation is easy….for me. Making a presentation with confidence, is frustrating and futile for many. The message you want to get across, comes thru in your mind, but not from your mouth. Nerves take over. People are watching you and waiting to hear what you are saying next.
Then fear becomes the inevitable…and you lose the flow of your presentation. Trust me at this point you ARE being your own worst enemy. Your audience, usually is compassionate and will allow a stumble or two. But after that, you have to take control of the situation and realize that it is up to YOU to feel confident and continue to make a presentation of material that is worth listening to.
And the fact remains that this takes practice and confidence and focused concentration of what your objective is.
As an Adjunct Professor of Marketing at Kean, I know what I am speaking about at class that day, but you must be able to flow with the environment. And this takes experience.
Fear can overwhelm many people and they then take a step backwards, and they tend to lose their “mojo” while presenting their topic.
The acronym for fear is F.alse E.xpectations A.ppearing R.eal. But maybe it is not false…maybe you did make a mistake. Simply own up to it, state that you are nervous and take two deep breaths.
I am sure you have heard the sentence “If it is to be, it is up to me.”
Well that is the truth.
Snap out of the fear mode. Become of aware of your skills, take those two deep breaths, anchor your fingers onto something solid….and continue.
Simply keep going. Do not wallow in a communication failure.
Remember that movie “Cool Hand Luke”…where the famous sentence was said…”What we have here is a failure to communicate!”
Well, don’t let a failure become a reality.
Take focus, use your knowledge and knock
your audience out with a surprising good presentation.
Hey “Rocky” did it more than once….and so can you!
You will be surprised by your success!
If you have speaking fears that need to be addressed, contact Strong Incentives, and we will work with you directly to create a presentation that is a “knockout.”
Why not be a winner, who will relish the success of a great presentation, and realize that fear is something that is no longer a part of your speaking repertoire.

Public Speaking Fears….Why Is It the Worst?

I went to the NJAWBO statewide meeting Thursday, April 1st…introduced myself to many people and remained amazed how many people that I networked with, were confident talking “one to one” but terrified, literally scared of talking to a group.
Why is that?
The fear of making a mistake?
The fear of being judged by someone?
The fear of people talking about you behind their back, after you have finished?
Why?
But the fact remains….the more people that I talked to…they concurred that it truly affected them. The public podium was “not their cup of tea.” They would rather sell to a small group or individually.
In the long run…..this fear can truly affect your ‘bottom line.” Taking control of this “fear” and not letting it affect your confidence is critically important.
Work with a business/presentations coach….LIKE ME….or find one who can train you to a level of confidence…that you no longer keep making excuses.
You have heard it before…..the only fear you have is fear itself….and the acronym for fear is F.alse E.xpectations A.ppearing R.eal.
It is in your mind that is keeping and creating this fear. You can control this emotion. And it IS time to do just that.
Practice…practice….practice. In front of a mirror, and a friend or a pet. They will remain unbiased!

A man that I was networking with yesterday had a speech on being “Green” in the Garden State.
I asked him…”What is your opening sentence?” He said he was going to introduce himself….and then just proceed into his topic.
Within a minute, I told him to change his opening to:
“How many of you have ever seen Sesame Street?
“How many of you know who Kermit the Frog is”
“Well, do you remember Kermits….most famous song…..It’s Not Easy Being Green?”

He thought about this….and his colleague even encouraged him to change his opening….and he agreed!
By asking your audience a question, you engage them. This in turn makes YOU even more comfortable.
Think of the changes you can make the next time you speak. Improvement is easier than you think!
Call me for next steps….your peers will be “green” with envy….when they see the confident speaker you were meant to be!

Eileen Strong
Strong Incentives….Powerful Results…Positive Presentations!