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The power of failure and embarrassment…..

How frequently we only remember what we ‘screwed up on.” We repeat the atrocity in our mind again and again and again. Rarely do we repeat the moments when everything went smoothly. Those events seem to blend and blur into the past.
If we messed up on a sales presentation and lost the sale….we repeat it again and gain more emotional scar tissue. Yet we spend little time, giving ourselves accolades of praise when we got the sale, or the appointment or even the date that we were hoping to take place.
Everyday truly requires us to recognize even the little things that we did….big or small. Simply recognize them and give yourself credit.
Whether you put in a long day of commuting, being productive at work and dragging yourself back home. RECOGNIZE IT!
This was another day of your life, that you did the best you could do. Stop judging, stop ignoring and start recognizing.
We tend to forget the norm.
We forget the beauty of the brevity of one more day of life.
I recently went to see the replica of Henry Thoreau’s cabin at Walden’s pond. And I purchased his book. It was a wise investment. Everyday I read at least two more pages, just to “check in” with the premise that today was well spent. That today was productive, focused and had an awareness of each activity done.
How we frequently we forget this. WHY?
Stop beating yourself up.
Start giving yourself a “TaDa” everyday.
Recognize the uniqueness of you. Don’t be shy on doing it. Appreciate what you did today.
Seriously you might not get a tomorrow.
Don’t focus on the “oops” but focus on the “wow’s” of the simplicity of today.
It was and is YOUR day and no one else’s.
Claim it and enjoy it because it is your life…and no one can live it like you!!
I have been dubbed the “Attitude Amazon” and intend to make that title stick with style. My company name of Strong Incentives…sounds motivational…and I do motivate…your mind and your belief system. You are worth it!

Dragging lack of confidence in your personal and professional life?

The fact is we are creatures of habit. We tend to drag things along with us. Yes, we have learned a lesson. This is good. BUT we tend to drag the negative and emotional luggage along with us.
Their is a sentence that might seem trite…but it is powerful. And it is……
“Yesterday is history…
Tomorrow is a mystery….and today is the present.”
LIve for today, right now. Make it the best you can. Irrelevant if someone in the office was unethical about something. Take next steps to address it and use the T.L.C. method. This stands for TAKE IT….LEAVE IT….or CHANGE IT.
This is your choice. And if you just drag it with you back home and back to work, you will keep accumulating a lot of negative luggage.
Address the issue, in a mode that works for you.
If it is costing you sleep, write it down, the WHOLE issue….and SHRED IT!
That’s right you read it correctly.
This is a mental “enema”, and you need to get it out of your thoughts.
Take control of your emotions, and chose to respond not react.
You’ll feel better about yourself. Your productivity will improve. And your life will continue…because you are living in the present.

Laugh, love and live….for tomorrow it may SNOW….AGAIN!

When I left Wisconsin….I left my “snow days” behind. Or so I thought. Living here on the Jersey Shore makes the midwest look like a balmy paradise!
We are on to snowstorm number 5. And it just keeps coming down. Oh and of course the snowblower has died.
That would be too convenient for it to work, when we have had the most snow in years!

But it sure is pretty outside, as long as you don’t drive in it. My rear wheel drive Lexus is a nice ride….but not in snow.

Sometimes life is like that. You have all the right equipment. You are basically prepared….or so you thought. And then “WHAM”…the LETS MAKE A DEAL DOOR OF LIFE…swings wide open and leaves you lying flat on the ground.
That is what has happened in the past 6 days.
My neighbor dies after being sick for 5 weeks. My friends premature baby dies after 2 weeks of living. My very close friend has been given a very poor prognosis with his kidney & spinal cancer….and finally today…the Veternarian advised us that our cat has limited time. She said that time would tell within a few days whether “humane euthanasia” might be the next thing to do for our little 10 yr. old Kitty.
No matter where I turn…the unique brevity of life is becoming more apparent.
Truly, celebrate yours everyday. Make it special. Call your friends. Do something special for yourself everyday.
Feel good about what you do at work and at home…seriously. Most of us just glean over our day; deal with “stuff” as it happens.
And we simply go on.
Enjoy your next good belly laugh. Or at least seek out something that is funny, that will make you laugh. Release your serotonin (just a little bit more every day). Serotonin is that “James Brown” chemical that makes you think….”I feel good….dah da dah da dah da dah” (put some music in there)
Don’t just go thru the motions of your day….enjoy the simple things.
Because your’e worth it!

EileenStrong.com

The sadness of death…….

Yes, I know it is inevitable, but when you lose someone that you knew or loved or at least liked a lot….the finality of the end of life is simply empty.
A family member, a friend or a pet can simply drain you of all emotions.
I lost my Mom when she was only 55, and I had just turned 23. This was way too young for both of us.
I now have lived much longer than the time that I ever knew her.
Reading of the death of Patrick Swayze, and the murder of the Yale Medical student, the death of a high school friend and the death of my sister in laws sister….has brought the brevity of life into a very clear focus.
I wish you to cherish today, or this evening. Enjoy your friends, your loves, your pets, your family and more important enjoy the quality of your life.The beauty of laughter is soooo cool. Make an effort to smile more….it sounds trite, but damn it is so true. Laugh and love your life starting now. Seriously, you may only have a few moments left. You are worth it, you are worth it….you truly are worth it. Celebrate and love who you are!
Eileen

How frustrating is Tax Day in your life?

April 15th will be here and gone within a blink of the eye.
Either you will have waited till the big day in fear or have already filed an extension.
But the inevitable….is just that.
Do you wait for your return…to live off for the next few months. This economy is messing with all of us and we are hurting. Is your money what you will live off of the next month or two?
How do you feel instead of the government sending monies to all the bankrupt companies…..how about sending a $10,000 check to every citizen in America. We could then spend it and truly generate the country by bringing it back to life!
Seriously, think about it.
When America comes back out of recession #12 since the great depression….it will be the smaller stores of our country that will take the longest to bounce back.
Suzie Orman, says that we will have financial highs and lows for the next 6 years. Also she now says that we should no longer pay off our credit cards….but to STASH OUR CASH!”

Americans are being sent mixed signals.
Watching your 401 continue to falter.
But whatever cash you do have, spend it and restumulate this hurting economy.
Even America is being blamed for the worlds recession.
We are like the “leader of the pack” with a bullseye on our side.
C’mon guys…..give us a break.
This greed on Wall Street and in the hallways of these major banks, was the catalyst.
Give us time and we will be back…and we will be stronger.
Oh and yes there will BE another recession after this one.
Because life goes on…….
Carpe Diem guys……
Pay your taxes, or wait for your refund….but keep the attitude that keeps you going. This is your gig.
Turn off the TV, the NPR or the Wall Street Journal.
Sit on the porch, talk to a neighbor and enjoy the day. It’s yours. There are no refunds on this day. It is just yours. Make it right for you!