Ugh….I’ve got to speak…and I really, really don’t want to!! I mean seriously, I don’t want to! First off, it is a natural apprehension. Even a professional speaker can be a little on edge.
If you have ever read interviews of established actors….they always mention how apprensive they are…”how many butterflies” they have in their stomach. And actually that is a good thing. It gives you that edge.
But it is when you let your fear control you, and overwhelm you. It’s when the F.E.A.R. takes place (F.alse E.pectations A.ppearing R.eal).
Because your mind can allow you to feel and stay …”out of control!”
There is NO reason for that to be a dominating factor.
Your confidence is an ongoing growth process. Each opportunity is a new one. You are on an increased learning curve. And the more that you have the opportunity to speak in front of ANY size audience, the more natural you will feel. But if you avoid it, and stick to only what you feel comfortable with….than you WILL maintain that same fear.
You have only become comfortable at what you do,…. because of doing it over and over again. It becomes 2nd nature to you. Think of how you perform at a job, or at a sport that you like. You simply just do it!
Like that NIke commercial tag line goes….”Just Do It!”
If you don’t maintain that attitude…the fear will continue to fester and control you. There is a great song sung incredibly well by Patti LaPone…..”I’ve got a new atttiude.”
Maybe that is a song you might crank up prior to giving a speech….or find a song that does it for you…one that motivates and excites YOU! It is the music that gets you moving….maybe one that you use on a treadmill, to “psych” you up and keep you moving. Hearing that music might be all you need to be the catalyst to get you there and present with energy!
Believe it or not, it can be something as simple as that. Think of how many times you have heard a certain piece of music, and you are compelled to “crank it up loud.”
Finally, write down the fear that is controlling you. Are you afraid you will not be welcomed, liked, accepted…. or will you be boring? By writing it down you recognize the issue at hand. This action helps you to actually control your fear. “You got to name it to claim it” is actually quite true.
I have been involved in clinical Hypnosis for over 25 years now, (PowerfulResultsHypnosis) and am amazed to this day, how powerful the mind is! I have seen clients make drastic differences…just thru visualizing how they knew they could and WOULD look.
So Can You!!!
By listening to a reinforced message that is repeated in a safe, and positive reinforced way…you CAN eliminate those public speaking fears.
Contact me, (Eileen@StrongIncentives.com) to have a customized CD made for you…if you have a major presentation coming up. It truly is within your mind to take control of this fear.
Discover how to speak and love it.
You can do it…in fact…you can choose to….”Just Do It!”