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How to speak confidently in public….and actually feel comfortable doing it!

Ugh….I’ve got to speak…and I really, really don’t want to!! I mean seriously, I don’t want to! First off, it is a natural apprehension. Even a professional speaker can be a little on edge.
If you have ever read interviews of established actors….they always mention how apprensive they are…”how many butterflies” they have in their stomach. And actually that is a good thing. It gives you that edge.
But it is when you let your fear control you, and overwhelm you. It’s when the F.E.A.R. takes place  (F.alse E.pectations A.ppearing R.eal).

Because your mind can allow you to feel and stay …”out of control!”
There is NO reason for that to be a dominating factor.
Your confidence is an ongoing growth process. Each opportunity is a new one. You are on an increased learning curve.  And the more that you have the opportunity to speak in front of ANY size audience, the more natural you will feel. But if you avoid it, and stick to only what you feel comfortable with….than you WILL maintain that same fear.

You have only become comfortable at what you do,…. because of doing it over and over again. It becomes 2nd nature to you. Think of how you perform at a job, or at a sport that you like. You simply just do it!

Like that NIke commercial tag line goes….”Just Do It!”

If you don’t maintain that attitude…the fear will continue to fester and control you. There is a great song sung incredibly well by Patti LaPone…..”I’ve got a new atttiude.”
Maybe that is a song you might crank up prior to giving a speech….or find a song that does it for you…one that motivates and excites YOU! It is the music that gets you moving….maybe one that you use on a treadmill, to “psych” you up and keep you moving. Hearing that music might be all you need to be the catalyst to get you there and present with energy!
Believe it or not, it can be something as simple as that. Think of how many times you have heard a certain piece of music, and you are compelled to “crank it up loud.”

Finally, write down the fear that is controlling you. Are you afraid you will not be welcomed, liked, accepted…. or will you be boring? By writing it down you recognize the issue at hand. This action helps you to actually control your fear. “You got to name it to claim it” is actually quite true.
I have been involved in clinical Hypnosis for over 25 years now, (PowerfulResultsHypnosis) and am amazed to this day, how powerful the mind is! I have seen clients make drastic differences…just thru visualizing how they knew they could and WOULD look.

So Can You!!!
By listening to a reinforced message that is repeated in a safe, and positive reinforced way…you CAN eliminate those public speaking fears.
Contact me, (Eileen@StrongIncentives.com) to have a customized CD made for you…if you have a major presentation coming up. It truly is within your mind to take control of this fear.
Discover how to speak and love it.

You can do it…in fact…you can choose to….”Just Do It!”

The power of networking…..successfully! Or….how I learned to overcome procrastination.

Sometimes it  seems that networking is waste of time. In fact I have a business card that I pass out and it says   “Is this the best use of my time?”

I pass it out to several people that I meet at events. Then when I  seem them later at a different event, I frequently hear from people that the card with that phrase is STILL taped to the front of their desk or computer.

Seriously,  just think of it. How well do you make use of your time?

I have always loved the wisdom of recognized business speaker Brian Tracy. His book “Eat That Frog“is one of my favorites. The gist of the book is that you should always do the worst thing first in the morning…and I mean the thing that you procrastinate over; you simply DO NOT WANT TO DO. But then it is DONE!  And Tracy then says, if you have two horrible things to do…do the worst thing first. He calls them “frogs.” Big and ugly green frogs that seem to control our life in so many ways.

Procrastination usually comes in the form of that “frog.”  We put off doing what needs to be done until we are pressured into doing it at last minute.

How often have you done that? In fact, might you even fall into that category called the “3 P’s?”

Packrat / Procrastinator / Perfectionist

If one is a procrastinator, they frequently will be a packrat keeping “important” things in their life, that they think they will use another time. Someday, somewhere…somehow. Yet when they do the task that they have put off doing…they do it extremely well. Because they are perfectionist. Wanting to be  in control at all times.

Quite frankly I am married to one. And it sure is taxing.

Some people are only 2 out of the “3 P’s.”

Which one are you? Especially when it comes to networking. This skill is critically important in running your business successfully. Meeting people who should know about your business, but you never get around to mingling with them OR  your target rich audience effectively. You observe other people doing that….but you attempt to and do NOT follow thru. Question yourself and find out what you are afraid of. Rejection, objections or possible acceptance?

Don’t be your own worst enemy. Get out there now…and just do it!

No wonder “Nike” uses that for a logo!

Share with me your thoughts!

Eileen Strong….”The Attitude Amazon.”