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Not everyone is going to like you!

You have heard of the 80/20 rule? It is true with everything in life….especially when you make a presentation. Even one that you have prepared for!
Vil Pareto in the 1880’s is credited with this statistic that 80% will like and 20% will dislike….no matter what!
And this statistic can be applied to almost anything in life.
Such as you get along with 80% of the people you work with and 20% you have chosen… not to relate to. This statistic is applicable to many other similar things in life…and I am sure you can understand this.
But, the fact remains that when you make a presentation…someone is surely going to find fault with it. And possibly they will even let you know it. It’s their objective to probably let the people around them to know it, and then THEY might even spread the word of their displeasure.
As a professional trainer, I have experienced this more than once! I knew my material. I presented it with credibility. The majority of people who attended, benefitted from the my course. But disharmony existed, and those scorned people let me know it!
So how do you address this? Because this malignancy can do damage to your presentation, your self belief and your presentation skills.
If possible find out what caused them to feel so disgruntled. Ask how you let them down?
Address it in a professional manner and see how you can rectify it for them. They probably will be complimented by your interest in them, and will be pleased to find out that their concern had impact on you!
Then take it to the next step and rectify it when you make that presentation again.
Trial and error is an ongoing deal whenever you present with frequency. Tweak your speech each time….and fewer people will be going “to the dark side.”
Knowing that not everyone will always like you. Just ask any former presidential candidate.
Eileen Strong is eager to create a powerful results presentations for you and your team today.

The power of failure and embarrassment…..

How frequently we only remember what we ‘screwed up on.” We repeat the atrocity in our mind again and again and again. Rarely do we repeat the moments when everything went smoothly. Those events seem to blend and blur into the past.
If we messed up on a sales presentation and lost the sale….we repeat it again and gain more emotional scar tissue. Yet we spend little time, giving ourselves accolades of praise when we got the sale, or the appointment or even the date that we were hoping to take place.
Everyday truly requires us to recognize even the little things that we did….big or small. Simply recognize them and give yourself credit.
Whether you put in a long day of commuting, being productive at work and dragging yourself back home. RECOGNIZE IT!
This was another day of your life, that you did the best you could do. Stop judging, stop ignoring and start recognizing.
We tend to forget the norm.
We forget the beauty of the brevity of one more day of life.
I recently went to see the replica of Henry Thoreau’s cabin at Walden’s pond. And I purchased his book. It was a wise investment. Everyday I read at least two more pages, just to “check in” with the premise that today was well spent. That today was productive, focused and had an awareness of each activity done.
How we frequently we forget this. WHY?
Stop beating yourself up.
Start giving yourself a “TaDa” everyday.
Recognize the uniqueness of you. Don’t be shy on doing it. Appreciate what you did today.
Seriously you might not get a tomorrow.
Don’t focus on the “oops” but focus on the “wow’s” of the simplicity of today.
It was and is YOUR day and no one else’s.
Claim it and enjoy it because it is your life…and no one can live it like you!!
I have been dubbed the “Attitude Amazon” and intend to make that title stick with style. My company name of Strong Incentives…sounds motivational…and I do motivate…your mind and your belief system. You are worth it!

Dragging lack of confidence in your personal and professional life?

The fact is we are creatures of habit. We tend to drag things along with us. Yes, we have learned a lesson. This is good. BUT we tend to drag the negative and emotional luggage along with us.
Their is a sentence that might seem trite…but it is powerful. And it is……
“Yesterday is history…
Tomorrow is a mystery….and today is the present.”
LIve for today, right now. Make it the best you can. Irrelevant if someone in the office was unethical about something. Take next steps to address it and use the T.L.C. method. This stands for TAKE IT….LEAVE IT….or CHANGE IT.
This is your choice. And if you just drag it with you back home and back to work, you will keep accumulating a lot of negative luggage.
Address the issue, in a mode that works for you.
If it is costing you sleep, write it down, the WHOLE issue….and SHRED IT!
That’s right you read it correctly.
This is a mental “enema”, and you need to get it out of your thoughts.
Take control of your emotions, and chose to respond not react.
You’ll feel better about yourself. Your productivity will improve. And your life will continue…because you are living in the present.

The power of “Powerful You!” women.

On September 22, I was one of the keynote speakers at the “Powerful You” 2010 Transitions program for NY & NJ.
Speaking on my keynote program called
C.H.A.N.G.E.S.
The program was focus on your business and how “change” affects your business in so many ways.
I addressed C- communication – How you handle your social media communications and marketing materials.
H. is for Health – the health of your bottom line of your business.
A. is for Attitude – staying focused with positive master mind groups.
N. is for Negativity – reading books such as “The Secret” and “The Power of Positive Thinking”. Avoid working or being exposed to negative thinking people.
G. is for Goals – Making sure that your goals are S.pecific, M.easurable, A.ction oriented, R.esults, T.ime frame for your goals.
S is for S.uccess – And that is inevitable by incorporating all of those key steps….
C.H.A.N.G.E.S.
The “Powerful You” Women’s group is a nationally based company that is growing through out the country. It incorporates Master Mind groups, Gratitude and applicable topics that help all women entrepreneurs.
The accolades I received for the rest of the day was incredible! And I am most grateful for this fascinating group of women.
Seek one out in your area…or take the next steps to starting one in your city.
It will be worth your investment of time and the paybacks will be incredible!