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The Only Thing You Have To Fear Is Fear Itself!

Yes that sentence was said by the late, great Franklin D. Roosevelt at his 1st Inaugural speech.

And we WERE a country was living in fear. We had high unemployment, we had social and government and

international problems that SCARED most of us. Sounds familiar to what is going on today!

The play on words of the acronym F.E.A.R. is “False Expectations Appearing Real”

How often have you been afraid, truly afraid? Probably more than what you realize. But that is good. The experience of fear is what we learn from. And it usually was an important lesson. Whether you failed a test and didn’t get the job. Whether you failed yourself…and didn’t achieve what you were hoping to. Or whether you failed your parents, your child or someone in need.

You WILL remember that failure.

Look at how many people have failed and have given up. And now think of how many people have failed and did not give up! Thomas Edison said that “he never failed….he only learned new ways of how not to try it that way…again.”  Even after he went totally deaf, Mr. Edison would BITE as hard as he could into the phonograph, so that he could FEEL the vibration of the music! Michael Jordan said he had failed his team so many times, that he lost over 36 VERY important games and hundreds of regular games…BUT he never gave up.

You never gave up trying to learn how to ride a bike, or swim or ski or learn any new sport. And if you did….it probably haunted you. And probably still does to this day! It takes discipline, attitude and a strong belief in the most important person in your life…YOU!

In my book “Who Stole My Confidence?” 7 Rock  Solid Steps To Take Yours Back!” I discuss in detail how to pick up the pieces after you felt you had “lost them all”, and didn’t know where to go next. Remember you can lose your confidence in yourself and wallow and allow yourself to feel fearful, uncertain and not know what to do next. AND this can happen to you at any stage in life. But you can adapt.You can pick up the pieces… and you can feel more  confident….one step at a time. At my site StrongIncentives.com you can read and discover how hire me as a speaker and trainer to your teams and incredible employees on how to become more “resilient” and less fearful of what can or could go wrong!

I watched my home team Green Bay Packers take a beating on the opening night of this season….but I know  they will learn from their mistakes and apply it to their next game….and ideally WIN.

So should you! Remember the MOST important person in your life is you, and always will be. Everyone has obstacles and we all handle them differently. Think of Helen Keller, and realize nothing can or should stop you, Close your eyes, and your ears and live in her world for 90 seconds, and realize how lucky  you really are!

The power of having confidence!

As we go thru life, there are several factors that affect our self esteem and confidence. And it can change daily, weekly or monthly. But it is a fact that your confidence will be challenged either professionally or personally.
A loss of confidence can be like a malignancy. It can eat at you and do long term damage, if you allow it. Self Esteem and confidence go hand in hand even though there is a difference between the two.

You have to take an approach of feeling in control, when you temporarily feel that someone has taken it away from you.
What are the circumstances that have just taken place, where you feel less about yourself. Where you in a group setting, where you were judged by your piers? Where you in professional environment and someone made a corrective criticism about something you just did?
Seriously the situations can and do go on and on, if we let them.
You MUST take a step back when you feel “threatened.” You must review what has gone on to cause that feeling. Nobody, but nobody wants to feel left out…ever. You didn’t want to be that kid who was chosen last on the line up for teams. Why?…because it simply made you feel unworthy. Like nobody cared. And that is where you have to take some responsibility for the rejection and find where y6ur strength is. Being judged by other people hurts. And nobody likes that.
I have frequently used with my clients a technique that is called Neural Linguistic Programing (N.L.P.) And this exercise has you taking a deep breath, pressing your thumb to the first finger on your hand and repeating the following sentence.
“I choose to be in control, feeling strong and confident is O.K. with me.” Say this sentence 1 finger at a time with conviction. Take your thumb and go thru your right hand then switch over to your left hand and repeat that sentence as you press your thumb to each finger….repeating it AND meaning it.
Talk it over with someone, if you are stressed by what has been done or said to you. JUST DONT IGNORE AND REPRESS IT…or you will continue to lose your confidence.
Trust me, you will continually have your confidence challenged thru out your life! Choose to take control and feel focused and crisply aware of your talents. Choose to live in the present and focus on the power of you. Just that alone can be a might challenge. No one but no one can live your life fully. You have the control and the choice to believe and accept yourself!
Look in the mirror and realize what a blessing you are in so many simple but necessary ways! My book “Who Stole My Confidence? 7 Rock Solid Steps To Take Yours Back!” is the right investment in your life at ANY stage!